Friday, April 3, 2020

LockDown Musical Interlude--ESPECIALLY WONDERFUL SONGS: April Day 3, 2020

3.  Song name:  “Lush Life”
Artist:  Natalie Cole
Song Writer:  Billy Strayhorn
Arranger:  Johnny Mandel

This Natalie Cole album was so good that I have two especially wonderful songs from it.  This one, “Lush Life”, is an extremely well known song, recorded at one time or another by probably every female vocalist ever, yet this version is the one that grabs me the most.  I can’t listen to this album without getting entranced by this song.  Natalie’s voice is so clear, powerful, and beautiful, I can just absolutely feel it, that sense of emptiness and desperation from being jilted by one you thought loved you and you still deeply love.  And how many other women are there suffering this same thing, this pain and emptiness.  The song ends with a sense of compassion for them all.

Not every song in this LockDown series can be uplifting per se, but even though those of us in lockdown can relate to the mood of this song for various reasons, and we can miss for a while how good just a few week ago feels in contrast, perhaps shared compassion for others can carry us through.

This song is also a great example of being aware of the song writer.  Billy Strayhorn, known for his work with Duke Ellington, was a genius in his own right, and one can hardly go wrong by seeking out Billy Strayhorn songs.  Also, this song is unusual in that it tells its story right on through, without having any repeat of the narrative or a chorus.

Thursday, April 2, 2020

LockDown Musical Interlude--ESPECIALLY WONDERFUL SONGS: April Day 2, 2020

2.  Song:  “That Sunday, That Summer”
Artist:  Natalie Cole
Song Writers: George David Weiss and Joe Sherman
Arranger:  Johnny Mandel

Now doesn’t her beautiful golden voice pick you up and cradle you in the palms of her loving hands?
This song is a very famous Nat King Cole song and his version is wonderful.  But it was his daughter’s version that gave me one of those “stop and absorb” moments, and this was even with all the other great songs on the same album, the famous Unforgettable album in which Natalie Cole is singing the song, “Unforgettable”, thanks to modern technology, as a duet along with her father’s version which had been recorded a generation ago.  So there are several gems on this special album, but still, this one is an ESPECIALLY WONDERFUL SONG.  It started with a smile, she saw this man, and all nature burst forth into summer. “Go on and kiss him” was nature’s perfect advice!    

Wednesday, April 1, 2020

LockDown Musical Interlude--ESPECIALLY WONDERFUL SONGS: April Day 1, 2020

In Los Angeles where I live, we have been in LockDown since March 16, thereabouts.  Now that is going to be expanded to the entire month of April.  We are all to continue "practice social distancing", stay in our homes and not leave except for essential reasons, and whenever we are in public, keep a distance of at least six feet from everybody.  The only establishments that are considered "essential" and therefore are allowed to stay open for business have been grocery stores, pharmacies, banks, gas stations, building and hardware stores, and, of course hospitals.  There may be some other things in there, but not very many.  Restaurants, bars, movie theaters and other places where large numbers of people gather are closed.  Restaurants can prepare only take-outs.  All the schools and colleges have been closed and if any instruction is given, it is presented by Zoom or some other on-line conferencing system.  

I realize that many are exhausted and afraid and feeling alone and wondering how long this will go on and what will happen next and will things ever go back to normal.  It does a number on you, that's for sure.  I have been somewhat "crazy" and disconnected from reality, which I think is what happens when one is separated from normal life.  Also, there is a sense of helplessness, being out of control, some have lost their jobs or businesses, wondering how they will the survive and take are of there families.  How will they recovery.  We wonder what is happening with our money, our life savings that some of us greatly depend on.

Well, when I feel bad (and even when I feel good!), music perks me right up and makes me feel happy and at peace with the world. Even sad music helps me, because it opens up my compassion for others, which can't help but be a good thing and leads to greater self-care.

Now, here's a thing I have noticed that has happened with me many times.  I like to have music playing when I am in the kitchen, cooking something or cleaning up, and every once in a while, some song that is playing will stop me in my tracks.  I set my iPod to "shuffle", so I have no idea what song will play next.  Surely I must have heard such and such song countless times before, but now, suddenly, something about it grabbed me and made me stop and I put down whatever I was doing and I will listen to what grabbed my attention, and maybe even play the song again.  Maybe there is something in the singer's voice, or there might be a lyric that suddenly means so much more, or a certain chord or series of notes will communicate something glorious to me the I hadn't ever noticed before.  Now the song has new and a grander meaning.

When a song does that to me--and it doesn't have to be in the kitchen, it can happen when I am listening to the radio in my car, or in any other place where I can hear music--I classify it as an ESPECIALLY WONDERFUL SONG. 

I had the idea of making a blog entry of just that--all of my ESPECIALLY WONDERFUL SONGS at one time.  But now with so many people being in LockDown and feeling bad and needing either a pick-me up or some other moment of a better reality, then I think one song per day would be a better way to do it.  And guess what, I have exactly enough Especially Wonderful Songs for each day in the Month of May, which is the current LockDown period prescribed for the United States.  You living in other countries may be going through similar things, so I think this would be good for you, two.

These songs may come from any era and any genre.  I like all music, so even if some of these songs are not what you think you would like, if you listen anyway, you might find that you like it after all, or if you don',t then maybe tomorrow you will get to hear one that you do like.  

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I am thankful that every Especially Wonderful Song can be found on YouTube, so they can be easily shared.  Just click on the link.  Sometimes the linking is slow, I don't know why (maybe it has to shuffled through a lot of songs) but hold on for a moment and it should find the song.  If not, try clicking the link again.

I do not believe I am violating any body's copyright by doing this, I hope not and it is not my intention to do that.  After all, these songs are on YouTube already.  My idea is that this is advertising for them, for the song, the singer, the song writer, and so on.  You may discover somebody new whose work you would like to buy (that certainly happens to me!).  If I am wrong and I should not do this, I hope somebody lets me know.  If I need to unlink any particular song, I can do that, as well.

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If you like something that you hear here, or have anything else to say, please leave me a comment.  I love getting comments!

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1.  Song:  “What Are You Doing The Rest Of Your Life”;
Artist:  Chris Botti (Trumpet) and Sting (Vocals);
Song Writers:  Michel Legrand and Alan Bergman
Arranger:  Billy Childs

What woman wouldn’t want a man like this, to just completely merge himself with your spirit?  I love all the words and rhymes, but what really got me was “And when you stand before the candles on a cake, Oh let me be the one to hear the silent wish you make.”  If that isn’t pure magic, I don’t know what is.  The music is out of this world, and I like how it is all slowed down. I try to buy everything Chris Botti does and he is one person I am especially dying to see live in a concert.

Tuesday, December 31, 2019

Christmas In Las Vegas and Slow Drive Home

I had a really great Christmas with my brother, Dave and his wife, Carol, who live in Las Vegas.  They are experts on when the best time to travel in and out of that city are and my drive in to arrive at noon on Christmas day was perfect, I was on cruise control every bit of the way!  This was the first time since I lived in Tarzana that I was even able to set the cruise control the minute I got onto the 101freeway! I guess the vast bulk of the Los Angeles to Las Vegas traffic had been the day before, so going there on Christmas day was a stroke of genius (thank you, Dave!).

The drive home two days later wasn’t so quick, but that wasn’t Dave and Carol’s fault.  Odd weather patterns made no time ideal, but there were other compensations on the drive back home, which I will describe when we get there.

Their house was beautifully decorated with several strings of colored lights across the front second-story balcony and there was a huge blow-up Santa Clause by the front door.  There were decorations inside the house, a beautiful Christmas tree by the fireplace in the family room, and a fun surprise, there were Christmas pillows and a Christmas bedspread on the guest bedroom bed and even Christmas sheets, and also a Christmas shower curtain in the bathroom I would use.

Champagne began to flow as soon as we all sat down…well, Carol semi-sat down, because she was also following her very detailed charted out “Christmas dinner map” wherein a huge holiday feast with all our favorite dishes was growing into form.  All of that came together right at the perfect time.  The turkey truly was “golden” and perfect, and all other dishes were also perfect.  Of course we piled our dinner plates high, and then went back for seconds, and thirds.

After dinner was present opening time!  I was warned that I would be receiving presents to open, as well, although I was told to notget presents for them.  Well, I already was giving them hostess and host gifts, but those were not “Christmas” per se, so I snuck in presents they couldn’t complain about, two CDs each (although all of them were for both of them) that I mixed for them, entitled “Especially Beautiful Songs”, “Serious Moods”, and two CDs of “Touched By Jorge Calandrelli”.  I would be very surprised if they did not like them.  They got me a Keurig coffee maker and a box of Donut Shop coffee pods. I love this!

They gave each other several great gifts, of course, but it seems the one that gathered a lot of the attention was a “robot” vacuum cleaner that truly seemed to be a new “pet animal” in the house!  Honestly, while it really was a circle, it seemed to exhibit a personality and it was so cute how it would find its way back to where it could recharge itself. One of Carol’s friends said she has to hunt around the house to see where hers is, and I could see that same potential with this one that seems to have a mind of its own.  They will probably end up giving it a name.

It was so great for me to see them, it had been about a year and a half since I had seen them last.  In an ever-increasing dividing culture, it is wonderful to be with people who share the same major perspectives.  It was refreshing and inspiring.

The day after Christmas was “playing in Las Vegas” day.  Carol had gotten a new car some time ago, a gorgeous “purple” (but the color name is more expressive than that, but I have forgotten what it was) Mustang, really really beautiful.  We had hoped to go to the Strip in her car, but there was no doing that with three of us and with the Mustang rear seat being good for small children only.  So we went in Dave’s car—I am glad I wasn’t driving, which we did some other time when I was showing off my new car then. Driving in Las Vegas is not my favorite then, and even Dave and Carol who live and work in Las Vegas, they sometimes have to share notes as to how to best get to wherever we were going and also find the place to park.

Our destination was the Encore and we had fun playing on the cheapest (nickel) Poker Slots.  I put in only $20.00 and for hours and hours I hovered around that same spot, losing some, gaining some, but finally ended up losing by a couple of dollars and meanwhile had three delicious complimentary Whiskey Sours for which our waitress received a dollar and a half tip for each one of our drinks ($13.50 total).  Such a deal, since we had lots of fun and Dave and Carol got to drive some more understanding of poker odds into their fingers and brains (they play more aggressively than I do).  The only thing that made us leave was that we had reached the point where we were craving some Christmas dinner left-overs, so we headed back home.

Dave and Carol are both very hard workers and it was back to work for the next day for them.  Based on historical habits, that day going back to Los Angeles from Las Vegas should have been as light as my arrival on Christmas day had been.  However, the day before, the road out of Las Vegas heading toward Southern Calfornia was closeddue to heavy snow on the elevated pass beyond Primm and the California/Nevada border.  We were afraid that that route would still be closed, but Carol checked the weather report and learned that the snow and ice and had been cleared and the way out was open, at least for the time being.  We said our sad good-byes and I hit the road.

It was smooth sailing from their house to the freeway, but on the freeway, a little bit before the tiny town off “Jean”, the highway full of cars suddenly completely stopped.  Right there is a hotel and casino called “Terrible’s”, which is a name I simply can’t seem to keep in my head, because I think it is a “terrible” name.  Who wants to stay in a “terrible” place, when you are so close to Las Vegas?  So to me it is a peculiar oddity, yet that night of snow that blocked getting out of Las Vegas probably found quite a lot of people thankful that Terrible’s was there!  At any rate, all traffic stopped in the vicinity of that hotel

Next to this hotel was a place for jumping out of airplanes.  All these years of passing that place (at 70 miles per hour) I never knew that people were sky diving there, but with the traffic at a dead stop, I could see somebody floating down out of the sky, attached to what looked like a kite, but which I presumed to be parachute.  Just that alone looked so amazing, like some kind of an angel falling from the sky, but after that one touched ground, then another one came down!  As the cars sat there, I saw a total of four of those people just floating down out of the sky.  There was no sign of an airplane, which I imagine was way up there.  This made it look like some kind of alien beings that could fly were coming down from their mother ship for a visit!  It was very beautiful, but also they seemed so nakedly exposed.  I had never seen a sky-diver so up close before and really, it is just a person flowing down, holding onto a small multicolored “kite”-looking parachute.

Well, they all finished dropping out of the sky and about the same time, the cars started to creep forward.  That was one of the slowest places on the whole trip, so I assumed that probably everybody who had wanted to leave Las Vegas the day before, but were stuck, were then at that time attempting to leave, so presumable there were, let’s say, twice as many cars on the road as there would be on a normal “exit”, and it all seemed to begin with the emptying out of Terrible’s Hotel & Casino.

Then the traffic speed increased a little, let’s say up to 20 miles an hour, all the way to Primm.  After a bottle neck at the Primm hotels, the car speeds seemed to get back to a reasonable normal, not 70 miles per hour, but more like 50.  But that was a long shot better than just being stopped totally.

However, the glory of that speed was short lived, as the road climbed up the hill and soon enough got into a higher elevation section where all beyond the highway itself, the landscape was covered with beautiful snow and along that whole strip of highway (which had signs all over “for emergencies only”) there were parked cars and people, such as families with children, out there playing in the snow, taking photographs, making snowmen, throwing snowballs, and walking out into the deeper snow as if they were at a ski resort, not the edge of an Interstate Highway!  I saw the appeal of it, did not join in, myself…I knew it would be an over-long trip home, and besides, this was not a place for doing that!

Having all these people turning the sidew of the highway into parking zones for family snow play really slowed down the speed of the cars.  Adding to that, trucks (of which there were a LOT), are required to be over there on the right lane, which is the truck lane, but that lane was filled with cars moving at a crawl or stopped altogether, people looking for a place to park to go play in the show.  That was the legitimate LANE for truckers on the Interstate!  The truckers would honk and hold down on that blasting horn while being forced to a stop.  Their intention was to shove the drivers out of the truck lane, but nobody was paying attention to them, so the trucks moved over into the other lanes themselves, so now everybody in a car trying to make progress on the highway was surrounded by pissed-off truckers.  I thought one of them was going to rear-end me any minute as periodically the traffic would suddenly stop.  And really, there was no reason for the traffic to be slow, it was slow only because of all the snowy wonderland looky-loos who are interested in only playing in the show.  Well, I guess with it being only a day or two after Christmas, that must have seen like a Christmas wonderland, the timing was perfect!  It was “free” access to the snow without having to put on chains or worry about driving on ice, as this road had been thoroughly cleared.

Finally we got past the snow zone as the elevation went down some and highway speeds returned to normal.  But I, for one, was suddenly extremely drowsy and became afraid that I would fall asleep driving my car.  I couldn’t stop yawning.  So I decided to get a cup of coffee and eat some food, which I thought might perk me up and make it so that I could continue driving.

That poor town of Baker took the brunt of all these people now descending upon their tiny little town.  That was the slowest part of the entire trip, it took so long to just drive down that off-highway strip that was Baker; immense hordes of people all having the same idea I did.  There was even a long line for the bathroom in Denny’s where I had chosen to go.  But finally I had coffee and a lunch and I felt that I could continue on my way, but no, I was back to yawning and I realized that I truly did have to get some sleep.  Luckily, there was a reset stop about ten minutes away, so I pulled up in there, which was surprising empty…I guess everybody was doing in Baker whatever they would normally do at the rest stop.  I reclined my seat back down to “flat” and slept a full half-hour.  Then I woke up and by then it was now totally dark.

Here was something interesting to me…as I drove through Victorville, which I have done countless times in my life, but I had never driven through it at night in the dark, both sides of the highway the entire way thorough the town were lined with every kind of national chain restaurant there was, all of them there lined up one after the other. There would be Outback next to Benihana next to Sonic next to Marie Callendars next to TGIF next to Ruths Kris Steak House next to Denny’s next to McDonalds next to El Torito next to Starbucks next to Olive Garden next to Panda Express.  I am not necessarily telling you the correct names and orders, just the gist of the kind of thing there was.  It was remarkable.  I guess that “everybody” on the way from Southern California to Las Vegas can find their favorite chain restaurant, whichever one there is in the world, they can stop and eat in it in Victorville on their way!  Otherwise, I just can’t justify that smallish town having all of those well-known restaurants.  And I never would have known that until seeing all their lit up signs at night.  (I can imagine the board of directors of some new restaurant chain saying, “We’ve got to establish a presence in Victorville!”)

The final obstacle on the trip was Cajon Junction, which is beyond Victorville, where the highway goes up in elevation, and then down down down to the flats of the L.A. area.  This was another snow zone, making me think that this pass had been closed, too, and also cleared off, like the one near Las Vegas.  So that area was also very, very slow going, and due to the dark, it was hard to see the snow (illuminated by the car lights), but it had another feature that was so beautiful that I didn’t mind the slowness or the dark one bit!  This section had a graceful curved descending highway, and in areas had been split into distantly separate lanes for different directions, and there were other roads crossing the area.  Imagine all of the cars on these roads being solidly packed bumper to bumper, crawling along about 20 miles an hour.  All the cars going in the direction I was going showed red taillights and all the cars going in the opposite direction were showing white headlights.  All of these countless lights blended into their own solid color row, strung like Christmas lights across the snow-covered landscape.  It was absolutely beautiful, entrancing, really so I didn’t mind the slowness and the lateness at all.

Finally the traffic got down the hill and merged into the craziness of Southern California traffic. Speeds were back to full speed ahead and ultimately I arrived home and called Dave and Carol to tell them that I had made it back home.  It had taken me 9 and a ½ hours to do what could normally be a four-hour trip.

Tired from the long drive, I fully unpacked, put everything away (plugged in my Keurig coffee maker!) and went straight to bed.  Now it is on to the new year of 2020!

Wednesday, November 27, 2019

Who's The Turkey?

The first time I ever cooked a real meal for myself (not, say, eating a bowl of cereal or making a sandwich) was when I lived in New York in my early 20s and therefore in my very first apartment. Despite how small that apartment was, things were brilliantly laid out and so effectively it wasn’t small at all.  It still remains one of my favorite places I ever lived.

The man who was leasing the apartment (I had it as a sublease from him) had his own small advertising company and he wanted to expand to the Philadelphia market, so he temporarily moved there but maintained the lease on the New York apartment because it was rent controlled and therefore the rent would not go up until the lease was broken.  He was planning on coming back to the apartment to live once he was all set up in Philadelphia.  So I was able to get it for a “steal”, since I only had to pay him $10.00 more a month than he was paying for it.  I was quite happy with our arrangement.

He was a gourmet cook and had the kitchen fully stocked with every kind of kitchen item you would ever want, plus several very good cookbooks.  Since I am drawn to every book I see, I looked through his cookbooks with numerous delicious-looking recipes and very clear cooking instructions.  Since Thanksgiving was coming just around the corner, I decided as my very first major cooked meal to cook a complete Thanksgiving dinner for myself.  I was still new to New York, so the only person I knew at all was Jeannie Theresi (now a woman with TWO PhDs), who had been one of a gang of ten friends and partiers at Berkeley of which I was one of them.  At the time I was in New York, she was at the time was getting her masters degree at Columbia. She was going to be somewhere else on Thanksgiving, therefore, my personally made Thanksgiving feast would be for only me.

On Thanksgiving day, I walked the three and half blocks to Central Park West to watch in person the Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade with all the big blown-up balloon floats, etc., very exciting and spectacular.  Previously, I had seen that only on TV and now I was there watching it for real!  I really learned watching the parade outside that wintery morning just how cold cold be!  I had always naively thought that cold wouldn’t so bad, you just had to bundle up, but no, this Californian learned that morning that one cannot really bundle up their feet!  My feet went from feeling they would shatter like ice to being numb, so walking back home was a real chore (how did the parade marchers manage to do it?).  Thank goodness my apartment had a working radiator, I was finally able to thaw out.  And then got to work on making my personal Thanksgiving dinner, with the turkey and all the various favorite dishes and wine and pie and ice-cream, the whole thing.  I had been impressed that Pathmark, my nearby grocery store, was selling small turkeys, somewhat larger than chickens.  I had only been aware of huge turkeys, such as we always had on Thanksgiving at home, and at other people’s houses if we had Thanksgiving somewhere else that year.  Having a small one was exactly what I wanted!

That dinner was a delicious success, with all the various dishes being ready at the same time, and from then on, I continued to cook for myself the whole time I lived in New York.  The grocery store, Pathmark, was only a block away, so it was easy enough to walk there almost every day.

Ever since then, I have more or less copied that tradition…not every year, and not every place I lived, but I always liked it when I did it and this year, I decided I would do it again after having not done it here in this apartment, thanks to every year going up to my sister's house at Clear Lake for family gatherings after our parents had both died (otherwise, our mother had the lock on Thanksgiving and Christmas unless we lived very far away, and even then we showed up when we could).  My sister doesn’t have that family gathering anymore (she had done it so well so many times that she deserves the vacations from it), so this year I figured I would cook my Thanksgiving dinner again.  I decided the menu and made a shopping list of all the required ingredients I needed to buy.  This menu was: a small turkey with mushroom and wild rice dressing, turkey giblet gravy, buttered lima beans, mashed potatoes, cranberry sauce, champagne, pumpkin pie, and vanilla ice cream.  Pretty basic, but very good.  I worried about getting a small turkey, I had never noticed that they had those at VONS, my current grocery store here in California.

Previously shopping at VONS, I happened to notice that they had a meat freezer that had in it some tiny turkeys (smaller than I would have wanted for Thanksgiving)…but looking at them closely, I saw that they were just frozen turkey breasts.  Well, that might be nice for normal dinners…I wasn’t thinking Thanksgiving at this point.

There is a checker at VONS I don’t like.  He is a young man, very full of himself and actually rather nasty, and while for a while I attempted to tolerate him since he always seems to have a less-full line (maybe other shoppers don’t like him either).  So that day I bought the frozen turkey breast.  I happened to choose his line and he began ringing up my purchases.  When he got to the turkey breast, he spun it around for a while on the counter and then looked at me and asked, "What is its price?"  I said, “ Hum?”  He said, “It doesn’t have a price on it, how much does it cost?”  I said, “I don’t know, don’t you know?”  He said, kind of sharply, “It isn’t marked.”  Well, I’m thinking that is his problem.  He looked at me like I was a buffoon because I didn’t know the price of the turkey breast.  But I don’t know price of ANYTHING,  I’m not like those women cutting the coupons from the thousand pages of newspaper that are stuffed in our mailboxes, surely the cost of this frozen chicken breast isn’t anything I would be balking at, “Oh that is too expensive".  So we had a kind of eye to eye standoff during which I realized that he wasn’t going to find somebody to go check the price.  Finally he said, “Is $10.50 okay?  If you find out it is different, bring your receipt and I will give you a refund.”  Totally inappropriate, because the only way that would really work would mean me putting all my groceries in the trunk of the car and then going back into the store to look at the frozen turkeys in that freezer.  And I realized that each one would be different anyway as they are priced by their weight (which I think VONS SHOULD have programmed into their system; after all, they weigh all the produce, don’t they?).  So I just agreed to that having no idea how valid that  pride was, just so I could get out of there.  But I didn't like the feeling of being cheated, maybe.  I just didn't know.

And the frozen turkey breast, which I cooked in my crockpot after one day of attempting to defrost it in the refrigerator, wasn’t all that satisfactory.  It was so dry I could hardly swallow it, and with it being only a turkey breast, it’s “dryness quotient” was at the max.  I vowed to never get one of those again.

I ended up having some friends inviting me to join them in going out for Thanksgiving dinner this Thanksgiving, which we did last year and I really enjoyed it.  So naturally I accepted that offer.

However, I still was mentally interested in that home-made Thanksgiving dinner for myself.  And if you wonder why I don’t ask my friends over for my feast, I certainly would, but the apartment is (still) not fit for social events, too much stuff all over the place that have no place to go (start by thinking of over a thousand books that are in boxes everywhere, and in my home library, which is one of the bedrooms, I installed eleven large bookshelves that have books overflowing from them, as well), so no people are invited to come into my apartment, there’s hardly even a place to sit.

Thanksgiving was definitely going to be celebrated out with my friends, but I am still going to cook for myself my full-on planned Thanksgiving dinner for myself, maybe a few days later.

I had to go to VANS today to buy some food anyway, and I saw that the store was packed and jammed with Thanksgiving dinner shoppers, so I got hooked into getting all the Thanksgiving stuff today.  I saw to my delight two whole shelf units devoted to all things Thanksgiving cooking—stuffing, cranberry sauce, gravy, various vegetables, pumpkin pie mix etc., most of it for the “easy” cooking and canned goods variety.  Mostly I cook things more from scratch, but I didn’t find cranberries, so I got canned cranberry sauce, and I settled on buying pumpkin in a can and a pre-made pie crust this time…but I will be making my own ice cream.  Everything else, the peas, mashed potatoes, wild rice and mushroom stuffing, and giblet gravy will be easily made.  I also bought some splits of champagne.

I was worried that VONS wouldn’t have a small turkey and for sure I wasn’t going to succumb to the too dry turkey breast.  Fortunately in the meat section they had a long row of immense turkeys, but I managed to find a smallish (10 pound) one in there, hooray, so I added that to my shopping cart.  Now I was totally happy, I had all that I needed.

I got in one of the long lines, almost every shopping cart was filled with Thanksgiving shopping.  The checker this time is a man I don’t quite know what to make of.  Spanish is his native language and with English he is minimally functional.  He’s kind of too loud when he talks, which maybe is an attempt to be more understood since his English is so bad, I don’t know.  You certainly can’t joke with him, I already learned that from previous experiences; he hasn’t the slightest idea what you are talking about so it can’t be funny.

The checker began efficiently checking each item and then stopping for a while to bag some of the groceries.  It was so busy, and yet there were no baggers helping any of the checkers.

And then, uh oh, he got to the turkey, which was the last item, and he said, “How much is the price?”  Not that again!  I said, “What, there is no price on there, there should be a price.”  But there wasn’t, so again, I was being demanded to tell him how much this turkey cost.  I said, “How do I know?  There are turkeys over there that go from this size up to gargantuan, every price is different, don’t you charge by the weight?  What does your scale say?”

He answer with something like, “The scale no havva price”, and I kind of shrugged my shoulders, and when he asked for yet another time how much the turkey cost, I had to say to him that that was VONS’ job, not mine, I hadn’t the slightest idea what this turkey cost or what any turkey cost and I had no frame of reference of what they should cost.  All of this was happening as all these other very crowded shopping baskets were piling up behind me.  I kept wondering why he didn’t quickly ask for somebody to run over to the freezer and figure out the price.  They always do that for some can of peas or whatever that for some reason has a missing price, why won’t they go do this for this turkey?

The guy says, “Let’s just make it ten and a half dollars, is that okay?”  That price again?  Is that the “price default” when a checker is too lazy to call for someone to go for a price check?  By then no number meant a thing to me.  As I said before, each turkey has a different price, and there they went from my turkey’s size all the way up to about four times that, I am not a horse trader or a bargainer (going to Tijuana to hassle over a leather case or a guitar is not my idea of fun).

Finally he realized that nobody was going to move until he got somebody to go run a price check, so finally he did that and this woman seemed to take forever to obtain that information.  So meanwhile, the checker looks at the crowded line of people and he apologizes to them all (very loudly), but it felt like the apology he was making was meant to be he was apologizing to them because of me holding all of them up.  

And if that wasn’t bad enough, he scanned the line of people and he saw a woman holding up a few things from the deli, (why don’t these people ever use the express line?), like two burritos and a drink or something, so he said to her, “You are on your lunch time, right,” and she said, “Yes, I am,” and glanced at me again to make his point, and then looked back at her and said “You shouldn’t have to be late back to work, just go through.”  Oh, now I see, I am responsible even for this woman being late going back from lunch.   She didn’t quite understand what he was indicating, but he motioned for her to come on through the line and go, to heck with even charging her, just take her food and go for free.

Finally the checking woman comes back with the turkey, hands it to the chccker and he looked at the price sticker she had put on it.  I said to him, “How much is it, anyway,” but he wouldn’t answer.  So I bent down to look at the price sticker, and he actually ripped it off and threw it away in the wastebasket.  I asked him again how much it cost, and he continued to ignore me.  I didn’t know what the actual cost was until I got home and looked at the receipt:  $19.98, basically $20.00.  So he had been giving me a deal (maybe) if I had taken his suggested price that was about half what it was supposed to be, like he was being generous, like he was being generous to the women he let just take the food out without paying for it, but I don’t think that I should have taken his offer of cheating VONS, especially since I really had no frame of reference as to what the price should be (assuming that even the $19.98 is even valid).  I think this man turned against me because I didn’t trust him, that I saw him as a guy possibly overcharging  me instead of cutting the rate in half.  Well, looking at it another way, he is a dishonest man…it doesn’t make him any less dishonest if the cheating was in my favor.  All he really had to do was get somebody to check the price at the very beginning, instead of attempt to get some number out of me.  Now the way it stands, I have added him to that other guy whose line I won’t go into anymore.  Too many more checkers like that whose line I have to avoid, I won’t be going into VONS any more.

Tuesday, November 19, 2019

Rats Under The Hood, or Bats In The Belfry?

One of the least trusted occupations is used car salesman, but an important variation on that is automobile mechanics.  The big question always is not only is your mechanic knowledgeable so that the work is done right, and charging you a fair price, but is he or she honest to the extent that you actually need the work you are told you need.  Unfortunately, most car owners are not very knowledgeable about their car and I certainly fit into that category.  It would be great if we could take an automobile repair course and have a garage with a rack in it and a good place to ecologically get rid of old oil and grease.  If we had the time and interest we could do our own car repairs.  But that is not practical or of interest for the vast majority of people, therefore we are mostly at the mercy of an automobile mechanic.

I really love my car, a 2012 Infiniti M37, which I bought used.  It had previously been owned by a person who leased it and followed all the maintenance schedules perfectly.  To me, it was essentially a brand new car with little mileage and selling at a good price--it was everything I wanted.
I, too, have religiously followed the maintenance schedule, alternating between having the car serviced at Infiniti of Valencia where I bought the car, and Infiniti of Van Nuys which is only a twenty-minute drive from where I live instead of Valencia, which s an hour's drive away.  I liked both dealerships fine and was "sharing the wealth", choosing to get routine services from either one of them, until one morning after I had driven all the way up there and had a confirmed appointment for servicing, Infinite of Valencia turned me away, saying that they had too many cars to service at that time, I would need to come back another day.  At this point, that hour-long drive to that dealership suddenly was an issue with me and decided to settle on going only to the near-by Infiniti of Van Nuys.

In mid-October, I was going on a road trip through Arizona, New Mexico, Colorado, Utah, and Nevada.  My next car service was due a couple of weeks prior to this trip, so the timing was perfect for having the car serviced and checked out prior to this trip.  Everything was in great shape and the car was good to go for this great trip.

It was a really good trip and my car was a dream, performing perfectly in every way.  Autumn was a great season for a trip like this.  Previously when I was employed at Curtis School, trips were limited to the times I had off, which were two weeks of spring break, my three week summer vacation, and two weeks of Christmas break.

I got back at home on October 20th and got back into my normal routine.

November 1, I went to Whole Foods of Tarzana, parked in a section of their underground parking lot where you park facing the exit route instead of parking toward a wall.  So as I walked by my parked car to head to the store, I happened to see that due to the "light your way" delay that my headlights hadn't quite turned off yet and I could see that I had a front headlight out.  I wonder how long that that been like that, perhaps throughout my entire trip?  At any rate, I thought that was odd...I don't think I have ever had a headlight go out on a car; that's not a normal event.  And good thing, too, because replacement headlamps for that car cost about $200.00 (I later learned).

I made an appointment to have that headlamp replaced at Infiniti of Van Nuys at 7:00 AM on Monday, November 4.  I was the first customer there and when my service writer arrived, he took me into his office and we discussed the service that I needed...essentially what should have been a quick, in and out replacement of the bulb.  The serviced writer wrote up the order, adding on a free Express Service Multi-Point Inspection, something that always sounds good, but that I should have learned by now is actually an ominous thing and usually license for what amounts to armed robbery.   But it sounded good...after all, who doesn't want their car checked out to make sure that it continues to run in tiptop shape?  After all, as I said, I love that car and I want it to remain in great shape.

I was directed to sit down in the waiting room and help myself to the coffee machine with its various types of coffee choices, and the various sweet snacks.

After a while, the service writer came over to me and said that he wanted to take me into the workshop to show me something on my car.  Now that, of course, is even more ominous than the "free Express Service Multi-Point Inspection", and even worse, he said that the mechanic had said to him, "What you will see will blow your mind."

I really hadn't come in there that day to have my mind blown.

The mechanic had the hood up, of course, and everything seemingly laid bare.  Since these modern day luxury cars are basically all buttoned up and the engine compartment beautifully covered, usually all you see under the hood are the places to measure the amount of oil and check the level of the coolant.  I had never actually seen before whatever was deep inside there.

The mechanic directed my attention to an "animal dropping" down low in the engine compartment.  It was smooth and greenish and a bit smaller than what a dog might leave on your lawn.  I didn't really know what to make of that, but the mechanic said, "I think this was a raccoon that can gotten in here.  Or some other largish animal."  I thought, well that is cute, poor thing; it had made me think of a friend long ago telling me about how a cat had gotten injured under his car's hood--it had climbed in there to get out of the cold and when he started that car that morning, the cat's tail got pulled into the fan belt.  I was thinking that it was a good thing that when I started my car that no animal parts got pulled into the fan belt.

The mechanic then showed me what he thought were footprints, showing me that the animal had walked all over the place in there, and dirty dried discoloration on various pipes and tubes, and said, "Those are the evidence of several leaks.  It looks like that raccoon must have bit into various hoses, seeking out the water, or the antifreeze, which has a sweet taste and is deadly poison.  Your raccoon would not have lived very long.  Your radiator, too, has leaks, and will have to be replaced."  The whole radiator? I thought....that raccoon must have been voracious.  The mechanic said, "I will have to look all over to see what all damage it made, but I can tell you this, he sure did chew up this engine compartment."

What a shock all that was--I had never even heard of such a thing as this.  I figured that this must have happened when I was on my trip.  What picture came up in my mind was my car sitting there like a showplace right next to the entrance to the Mountain Lodge, the elegant hotel I was stayed in in the mountains above the gorgeous ski resort of Telluride (this was off-season, the ending few days of their summer season; snow would come in November), right close to the beginning of the Telluride Gondola that takes passengers down to the town of Telluride.  Normally with their required valet parking they took the cars around to a garage underneath the hotel, but mine they kept up there on top.  I now regret that; the car might have been safer in the garage below.  Of course, I am only guessing that the raccoon got in my car there, because that was the coldest and most forested of all the places I had parked the car on my trip.  Holbrook, Arizona had been all desert; Albuquerque and Santa Fe, New Mexico were more urban, and even the motel in the small town of Green River, Utah did not seem to be an area filled with lots of wild animals.  I certainly had never had anything like this happen to my car parked where I live in Tarzana...I hope not because I don't want to go through something like this again!

The service writer asked me to wait in the waiting room again and he would then present me with the work order after the mechanic finished his inspection.

When that time came, the service writer shoved under my nose a three-page work order and pointed out where I was to sign, indicating my approval for these repairs.  I glanced at the various things that the raccoon had damaged.  I saw something about power steering fluid and something else about the radiator and cooling leaks, even engine oil leaks.  I did happen to see an odd-ball entry, "4 wheel alignment", and I said to the service writer, "What could the raccoon have done to the wheels", to which the service writer responded, "Oh, that was just some other thing the mechanic noticed, the wheels were out of alignment.  Left like this, your tires would wear out much quicker."  Well, okay, okay, that seems reasonable.

What interested me the most was the grand total on the service order:  $4,730.67!  That raccoon had managed to do nearly $5,000 worth of damage to my car!  How horrible was this to have happen...and I was feeling especially poor, because I had also gotten a diagnosis from my dentist about a tooth of mine that will need to be extracted and replaced with an implant, a $6,784 cost.  So one day you are fine and happy, and then the next day you turn around and find out that you will be owing an unexpected $11,514.67, not good news when you are attempting to live off of your retirement funds.

I signed the damned work order and the service writer said it would take two days to do all the repairs, they would have a guy drive me home.

Once I was home, I decided to look up this thing about rodents going in under your hood, was this really a thing?  And according to several web sites, it definitely is a thing, and quite a damaging and expensive thing.  Rats are the most common villain, and they are especially a problem in rural areas where there are lots of rats.  They can really destroy things under the hood.  Some car manufacturers have been sued due to this, since they have moved over to using soy coated tubes, which cost less for car manufacturers, but are more vulnerable to rat damage.  Well, I certainly wouldn't want to regularly have to make $5,000 payments due to frequent rodent damage.

However I then learned reading bout this on-line that some automobile insurance policies, if you have comprehensive insurance, will cover rodent damage. Wow, here was a ray of hope!  I telephoned GEICO, my insurance company, and found out that my policy does cover rodent damage!  There is a $500 deductible, but I sure would be happy to have to pay only a tenth of my repair costs.  And the man on the phone also told me that making this claim would not raise my premium rates, as due to California insurance law, they cannot raise rates for damages that the ensured did not cause.  So everything about all this was turning into not being so bad after all!

The guy at GEICO said that normally they would send an insurance adjuster out to check the damages, but in this case, since the repairs were already in the process of being repaired, they would not require that, but that I would send to them the invoice and a proof of my payment and they would look at that.  I hope they weren't lying to me about "skipping the adjuster" piece.

As the end of the second day of the shop working on my car, I telephoned the service writer and asked if the car was ready yet.  He said that it was not finished yet, they they would need it for a third day, he hoped this was not an inconvenience.  If I wanted, they would loan me a car.  I figured that was more hassle than it was worth.  The only problem for me was that the next day I had both an appointment at the cardiologist and following that, a consultation at my dentist's office.  This meant that I would have to be walking to these appointments...but both places weren't that too far away and besides, I could use the exercise.  However, it did add to a certain inconvenience.

Also in that phone call with the service writer, I told him about how my automobile insurance would cover these repairs, so would he, or the mechanic, specially mark out on the final bill all the repairs that had come from the rodent damage.  I said that I had seen a repair item on the invoice that was not due to the rodent, and there maybe another item, so I don't want the insurance company to be confused, so please clearly mark that which came from rodent damage. He seemed to understand what I was asking.

Very late in the day I got a phone call from the service writer, telling me the car was ready, when would be a good time for me to have a car come pick me up.  I said that I was ready now, so he transferred me to somebody else, a woman, who told me the name of a woman who would come pick me up, and said the vehicle was going to be a black Prius and she quickly recited a license plate number. She asked me what my address was and I gave it to her.  Lately, when I am stressed, I mix up my home address number with my former work address number--both of them are burned in my brain but which one is which is sometimes mixed up when I recite it (getting old is a bitch).  When I went outside to wait for the ride to come, I began to worry that I might have given the wrong address.  Every time a car passed and it wasn't for me, I worried.  I also realized that I had no idea what a Prius looks like from the front, I have only seen them from the back.  So as it was getting later and later, I was getting more and more stressed.

Finally it was way past time for the driver to have arrived, so I pulled out my cell phone to call the service writer to ask him if the driver had trouble finding me, would they call him to verify the address?  However, I was unable to do that because his voicemail was full.  Then I noticed on my phone that I received texts from LYFT.  While it was an Infiniti of Van Nuys driver who drove me home on Monday, to pick me up this time, they had ordered a LYFT car for me without telling me that detail.  If I had known that, and known that I could communicate with the LYFT driver, I would have discovered that she was not able to find me and it was my fault...I had given her the numbers of my former work address, but the correct name of the street.  I could have then given her the correct number by text (along with a huge embarrassed apology), but since I hadn't even known that it was LYFT coming, that didn't happen.  So we had to start all over on this, but at least this time I gave the correct address.  This time it would be a male driver, and in some other color and make of car with such and such license number.

This time it was now very dark and I could hardly see the kind of cars that passed, and there was a constant stream of them since now was deep into commute time, which, of course, would also slow down the LYFT driver.  This waiting out there was making me more and more uncomfortable and angry over this whole thing.

Then I pulled out my cell phone and saw a message from the LYFT driver, telling me that was now here!  He was now here?  Where?  At this time, there was not a soul on the street, only me standing there on the curb where I had been standing for an hour by now.  Now I was full-on angry and called the LYFT driver's phone number and shouted, "Why are you telling me you are here when there is NOBODY anywhere near here?"  He responded, "Because I AM here!"  "WHERE ARE YOU?" I yelled.  He said,"I am in the parking lot where you told me to wait."  I said, "WHAT parking lot, I didn't tell anybody anything, I have been standing out here on the curb at the front of this apartment for over an hour."  I guess that then he decided to slowly drive down the street and I then heard a voice in the dark saying my first name, "Tom!  Tom!  Tom!" and when I peering into the dark, I could now see a car across the street from me with a man calling my name through his open car window.

I crossed the street, checked the license plate number, and then got into the car, sitting up front with him.  He said, to me, "I was just doing what I was told to do."  "Well, I don't understand why they told you to wait in a parking lot, the only parking that could be you could not get into, it is gated, and besides, I was waiting out here in the front where the address can be seen."  So he calmed down, as I did, and then for a while, the ride was totally silent, which felt weird.  So I started talking with him, telling him about my rodent damage, and ultimately I think we had a pretty good conversation on our way to the repair shop.

I went inside the service writer's office and we talked about the messed up LYFT ride and then we went over to the cashier for me to pay the bill.  I noticed that the bill did not have the raccoon damage repairs marked at all, as I had asked...which didn't surprise me.  I mentioned this to the service writer and asked him if he could do that for me. He said that only the mechanic would know which was which, but he was gone for the day.  I said that I could probably figure them out and mark the right ones myself once I was home.

However, when I got home, I realized that I could not make that determination, so the next morning, I called the service writer and said that it was imperative that I get the rodent repair charges clearly indicated.  He told me that the service writer was off that whole day, but they would both call me the next morning.

Next morning, I did get a call from both of them and I explained to the mechanic what I wanted.  And he said, "There was only one item, the headlamp."  I said, "What do you mean, 'only the headlamp', what about all this other stuff--the radiator leak and replacement at a cost of $1,905.44, you said that came from the rodent; what about the power steering fluid, what about the oil leak that required $973.13 worth of repairs?"  He said, "None of those other things were caused by rodent damage, only the headlamp; all the other repairs are things that needed to be done that were discovered during my inspection."

For a moment I was speechless.  The phone was completely silent as my brain churned inside my head.  I had approved a $4,730.67 repairs based on this rodent that presumably had "chewed up this engine compartment", only to find out that the only actual rodent damage was just this headlight?  That hardly would even be worth filing a claim with my insurance company that required I pay a $500 deductible.

Then I started shouting at them both, calling them crooks and liars and they sure did lose me as a customer, that I would have kept on having them keep my beautiful car in great shape even if it did cost more than an independent mechanic, but now I can't trust them at all, never again, and now i realize how they really work, once the warranty comes to an end, they realize that most of their customers stop going there and finding more affordable options elsewhere, so you make it a practice to cheat your customers one last time in a big way before you lose them for good.  Well, I haven't decided what I will do about this yet, a law suit maybe, certainly damaging reviews on Yelp, but during what surely will be the final few months of your employment at that place, I will give you some advice, and that is NEVER NEVER NEVER tell a customer that a repair is based on set of facts, such as in this case, "all this rodent damage", and then sneak in thousands of dollars of fraudulent other repairs that they WOULD NOT agree to having if they knew the complete truth.

The service writer was begging me to understand that all the other things needed to be done, they had taken me out there to see the damage, surely I understood.  I said that all of this was presented as being under the umbrella of the rodent damage, not "other things" that you "discovered" that I "needed".  "How could I possible have normally needed all these things?  I was already IN here one a month ago, having a complete good bill of health, and then now suddenly I needed a NEW RADIATOR (almost $2,000 cost), had a huge OIL LEAK in the engine (almost $1,000 in cost), needed a NEW BATTERY (almost $200) and then a bunch of other stuff, like a new POWER STEERING  KIT?"  I simply could not believe that all that was legitimate.   I have owned cars for the past 54 years, never once have I ever had a cascade of repairs happen like this.  This whole thing was an out and out scam, I can't see it as anything else.

We all hung up with the service writer still trying to convince me that all the repairs were legitimate, that my business was very precious to them and they didn't want to lose it, and they always meant to do the best for me.   And the trouble is that that may be correct, I just don't know!  The car is driving now like it is brand new...well, and sure, it ought to feel like that, they replaced so many components under the hood!  But one thing is clear and they can't get around that, and that is that everything I authorized was based on being told that some animal had gotten in under the hood and chewed everything up.  Before slipping a work order under my nose to sign, the service writer should have said, "Well, the mechanic has done a thorough investigation and it ends up that the only damage done by the rodent was the headlight.  Here, let me take you back out to the shop to show you all the other things on this list and why they are on there."  With all that stuff, they would have had to "sell" me on the need for those repairs.  Even now, a week later, I still can't believe it--new radiator, new battery, new power steering, big oil leak, all at once and suddenly?  Everything was in fine shape after the service I had there a month prior.  I just don't buy it.

I did a Yelp search on Infiniti of Van Nuys and it is a sad picture, let me tell you.  This is one of those Yelps where all the reviews are a mix of 5 stars and 1 star, mostly 1 stars.  I believe the 5 star reviews are from those customers who are still on the warranty, so they get to have luxury service and pay next to nothing.  Then the warranty ends, all of a sudden, all the reviews are 1 star and nothing but complaints.

There even was a review from a customer who said he brought it in with some problem and was told that he had rodent damage requiring $9,000 worth of repairs,  Instead of going along with that, he took his car to another shop that found the answer to his problem, told him he had no rodent damage, and the repair for his problem was only a few hundred dollars.  So in this guy's case, he didn't even have the claimed rodent damage!  This makes me wonder in my case if I even had the rodent damage my self, was the scam that thorough, to the extent of the mechanic putting the animal dropping in there himself?  Well, I won't go quite that far....

Interestingly, I looked up the Yelp reviews for Infiniti of Valencia, and they basically have nothing but five-star reviews.  Also, I searched an independent mechanic who specializes in Infiniti and found one that is in a convenient location and has nothing but five-star reviews for his shop, was well.  So apparently there are some good places to go for service of my Infiniti.

What drives me crazy about this whole thing was feeling that I was badly scammed, yet not really being able to be sure that I was.  I was done wrong by their making me think that everything that needed to be fixed was under the umbrella of the rodent damage and therefore I wasn't given a chance to separately evaluate the validity of the other repairs.  But as to maybe the other repairs were legitimate and I would have agreed to them if only I had been specifically shown their damage and given the chance to make an informed decision.  That makes me very sad; that what might actually have been good and thorough caring mechanics had their reputations besmirched due to an error in or failure of good communication.


Saturday, June 29, 2019

SOLUTION FOR BURN-OUT: DISCOVERING YOUR TRUE REST

For those who have been following this blog, I apologize that I have not yet continued the entries about my trip to Yosemite and elsewhere in May.  I do plan to finish those, but had gotten bogged down by quite a bit of other tasks in my life and that that continued to increase in intensity, so I just couldn't make the time to sit down and work on that entry some more.  

Meanwhile, now that this is summer, I have several friends and relatives suffering from severe burn-out from the past year of work, and now they are facing valuable vacation time that they are really counting on for refreshing themselves.  But instead of expecting relief, they are instead piling even more stress on their hoped for vacation, which is burdened by the duty of having to carry away all this burn-out.  You know that it is bad when your vacation is adding to your burn-out instead of relieving it!

I had gone though this myself a decade ago, and learned what the solution is, tried it out (there was nothing to lose), and discovered that it worked extremely well for me.  I have been following that concept ever sense.

I decided that I would write about this solution for one of these people and send it to her.  Once I had done that, I figured that it might help other people, to, so I decided to post it here on my blog.

What you need is what is called TRUE REST.  I had actually gotten this concept from something called "The Michael System" (and many of its various permutations, of which you may find several).  The Michael System offers quite a lot of other valuable lessons and concepts, but here we are concerned only with this particular issue.

Everybody has three "centers", their intellectual center, their emotional center, and their moving center.  You know in your own life that sometimes you think, other times you are emotional, and other times you are in the midst of action.  Those are the three centers, Intellectual, Emotional, and Moving.  You can think of "being" in one of these centers at any giving time, which really refers to which of the three is taking most of the focus of your energy.  You aren’t in all three of them at the same time, but move around among them as you experience various events.  Almost all of us have our number one favorite center to be in, but will also move to the others, and a great deal of people have a center they really don’t like and aren’t in it very often.  What I just described are the basic centers, but you also have three higher centers, but those are for special moments, you couldn’t be into those very long without suffering a burn-out from that, because those are too intense.  Peak experiences are meant for peak moments, not for all the time.

So you only need to analyze the three basic centers and figure out your order of favorite to the least.  For example, me, I am most comfortable in my intellectual center, that means that my normal behavior when something happens is to think about it, to analyze it intellectually.  You might say that I am mostly in my mind.  Next for me is my emotional center, which means that I will access my feelings.  So after I think about something, I might then cry, or laugh, or get very angry, and so on.  But those things don’t happen first.  When I am emotional, you might think that I am then in my heart.

Regarding my least favorite center, the moving center, I actually even have a block to it.  Not everybody has blocks to one of their centers, and it’s not really a problem, although it would be healthier to have a smooth flow among all three.  This doesn’t mean that I NEVER go into my moving center, that would mean that I would never get anything done.  How it works with me (but other people might be different) is I have what I think of as “inertia”, which means that whatever state I am in, it is hard to get me to move out of it.  So mostly that means that I do a lot of procrastination, meaning, no moving, but a hell of a lot of spinning around through my intellect and emotions.  For example, my brain may think of a wonderful story to write.  I might even write it completely in my head (I do something like that almost every single morning when I am preparing breakfast.)  So I have MILLIONS of ideas.  Now, wouldn’t it be wonderful if I then moved into my moving center and then actually wrote the book or story or whatever?  What a huge success I might have been!  But no, I then slide into my emotion center, and then come the doubts, “nobody would want to read this”, “I really don’t know very much about the subject matter”, “I can’t think of how to solve this particular plot issue”, or then my aversion to my moving center chimes, “oh, it will take so LONG to write that,” “now that you already know the whole thing in you head, can you think of anything more BORING than just sitting down to write the whole damn thing out, it is so much more interesting to think of another story, instead.”

So, it takes a lot of energy to get me moving.  In your case, you may not have a block against any of the three centers, but manage to move freely among them as appropriate to what is going on with you at the time.  Still, though, there will be one of the three that you do like the least.

Back to me, there was another wrinkle as to how my block worked.  Like the definition of inertia, if I DID finally get moving, then I wouldn't want to STOP.  Inertia has to do which changing motion, from starting it, to increase it, to diminishing it, or to stopping it.  Is your "train" stopped at the station?  It takes a lot of energy to get it moving, or alternatively, are the brakes broken and the train is running away down a mountain, requiring a very great deal of energy to top it?

So there was a time when I was in my 20s, living in New York, and I wrote a novel that actually got an agent who got a publisher willing to consider publishing it, but first he wanted me to do a complete re-write.  Being very young, I took that to mean that was a rejection, which I now understand really wasn’t, or at least, not yet--a lot of very successful writers say that they aren't writers, they are re-writers, and I have met one writer who wrote a book that required extensive historical research in Russia, and her publisher made her re-write her book three complete times, each time requiring more extensive historical research back in Russia.  Ultimately that book of hers came out and it was wonderful.

How I wrote that in the first place was I sat at my desk (which was also my dining room table) with my typewriter that was set up in the bay window that I could from time to time glance outside onto the street four stories down below me, and not move from there for about 30 hours as I wrote and wrote and wrote. Then I would be tired, and find a stopping point, and would go to bed and sleep for eight hours.  And then I would repeat…30 or so hours of solid writing, and then sleeping for eight hours.  Somewhere in there I would eat, but eating wasn’t all that important to me at the time, as I was deeply into the writing (moving center inertia).  It got so that sometimes when I woke up from some of my sleeps, I couldn’t tell whether it was AM or PM, because in that neighborhood they had very bright streetlights on all night long, and very dim natural light all day long, dim because of the monstrously tall skyscrapers blocking out the sky.

Sometimes when I really did need a break, or had a plot issue that I needed to solve, I would get up, go outside, walk to the nearest subway station, take the subway down to Battery Park where I would get onto the Staten Island Ferry, and ride across the water, past the Statue of Liberty, up to the dock at Staten Island, but I would stay on the ferry, and then take it back, seeing the gorgeous view of the skyscraper of Manhattan, get off the ferry, take the subway back to where I lived, and walk the block back to my apartment.  What a glorious way to take a break, I never got tired of it, and it only cost me 60 cents, a quarter for the subway one way, multiplied by 2, and one dime for the Staten Island Ferry, where I only had to pay for one way, since I didn’t get off at Staten Island.  It is only now, all these years later, that I realized that those breaks that I just outlined were an example of my getting out of my intellectual center (writer) into my moving center (on the move from the Upper East Side to Staten Island and back again). I wasn't even really thinking, the plot issue solved itself, or whatever else needed to be done somehow got taken care of during those treks.

I wrote that whole novel in about a month.  Now it takes me over a week to write just one blog entry!

Apparently a "normal" writer, if there is such a thing, works every day for a certain amount of time, such as a page a day, or in Ernest Hemingway’s case, he would write during the morning in his special writing room, and then would go out for lunch and drinking and fishing and whatever else he wanted to do for the rest of the day.  I really liked the idea of that method and thought I could do that once I was retired (I sure couldn’t do a page a day while working like some writers can), but I managed to stick with that for only the first month or so.  Starting it was hard, and if I had other things that needed to be done, that would derail my efforts to just sit there all day and write (which I very often do with shorter things than a novel!).  

So anyway, that’s me, so you might want to see how you apply yourself to the the three centers.  Here is the trick. Most people think, ah, vacation, I’m burned out, I need to RELAX.  I found out that I could NOT relax.  Relaxing made me feel sick…and depressed…and dark…and alone.  Oh sure, I could relax for one day, or maybe two, certainly not a whole week.  YOUR TRUE REST is going into the center that you go into the least.  Let me reiterate that--True Rest isn't going into your favorite center, it is purposely going into the center you like the least.

Think about that for a moment, because it is different from what you would expect. And especially if you have a center that you are blocked from, which means that you rarely go into there, or you have this peculiar way of handling it like I to, that is actually a very underused center, and that means you are unbalanced.  Nothing wrong with that, that is how almost all of us are made, but sometime you are going to have give some serious attention to that often ignored center.  And what about your favorite center, IT is what has the BURN-OUT!  Doesn’t that make sense?  You’ve worked that poor center to death, whereas your least used one is sitting there craving your attention.  Thank goodness I figured out that for my vacations, I must do “moving” things.  Fly somewhere far away, walk all over the place, explore, ride motor scooters, go on zip-lines, snorkel and body-surf in the oceans, go dancing, go on long road trips.

For people who avoid their intellectual center, their True Rest might be to read a very detailed and complicated book, begin and continue with a new class, such as start the learn a foreign language (and then sticking with it), or learn how to fix a car engine, or spend the time finishing your dissertation.  You fill in the blank, what would you want to do in this underused center. 

For people whose least favorite center is the emotional one, maybe they should go to an opera festival, volunteer to read to terminal children in a hospital, help find missing cats.  A person who needs to get into their least-liked center will know what they should do once they understand the concept.  Pure relaxation, meaning just sitting around by a swimming pool with a drink in your hand just keeps you in your normal center unless your normal center is the moving center, in which case you need to give all that physical activity a rest and poolside doing nothing but getting a tan genuinely IS relaxing for a change!  In previous times when so many people had physical jobs, farmers, factory workers, that kind of vacation was a God-send and that probably was responsible for the bedrock idea of that kind of vacation being relaxing since it genuinely was the True Rest of most of the people.  People were moving way too much and really needed to give that a rest.  But as much as I THINK I love that, I do know that it drives me crazy.  I can lie in the sun for about fifteen minutes while on a vacation before I want to get up and go do something.   Funny for a person who is blocked from his moving center, but deep inside us, we really do know what is good for us!  

If any of this makes sense to you, please try it out.  I think you will like it.  With me being retired now, people think I ought to be more relaxed then ever, by instead, my mind fills me with irrational worries.  Good thing I have scheduled coming up an eight day backpacking trip in the wilderness.  The trail I am taking is rated a 7 out of 10 for difficulty.  That ought to do it, moving center, here I come!  For you, I hope your vacation will be your least favor center that is waiting for you.  If this works out for you, please leave me some comments telling me about it!